Avoiding

Do we always see what we need to about ourselves, or are we looking around the edges of what we need to be focussing on? It is really easy to avoid looking introspectively by keeping busy, turning away, keeping our thoughts quieted and the feedback of others at bay. I read an interesting passage by Henri Nouwen and it led to the consideration that, actually looking at the self with such focus can be extremely challenging, and temptingly avoidable. Perhaps in the practice of taking-up this challenge the avoidance behaviours can subside. With these indicators being quieted, we could be on the path to peace and stillness inside and out. It is helpful to have a way to achieve this, but of course this will be very individual, however there are routes to take that can support unearthing some of this. Coaching can be really useful; being able to explore in a safe way, it allows discomfort as a passage to change, yet can be facilitated with the right fit.

It is important to see this in others, and with a positive working relationship the feedback can be invaluable in supporting colleagues to move on, rather than be held in a situation that is potentially unhelpful. With a greater awareness of mental health too, it really helps to get to know colleagues and how to get the right assistance, if needed and how to tell the difference. 

Know your avoidance tactics and that of others and you will achieve movement and growth. Don't forget, there is no growth in the comfort zone and no comfort in the growth zone...
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JC
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